Victoria, from your comment I reckon this is the first story you read from me. That’s ok. To answer your question, while it would be a possibility for other couples in my situation, him having an affair (or emotional affair) is close to impossible. My husband is an introvert, with many nerdy intrests and a tad socially akward. Many of his social interactions he learned rather than expressed naturally. He would not waste his time in an emotional affair because it's not something he feels he is lacking. I am not an insensitive bitch even though that's how you probably read me. And if he would, then I would be first, very suprised and then I would stop to think how I feel about it. I hope this clarifies it.