Thomas, what you describe it's an adult type of behaviour. Sadly, many of us are stuck in infantile behavior. Like for instance, a child does not articulate their needs and expect the adult to know. When they don't receive what they need, then they manifest their frustration and you get to a full blow tantrum many times. Unfortunately, we can see grown ups that behave like that. And that's because even if they are grown ups they have not matured to articulate their needs, etc. I speak from experience. I was there as well. Luckily, through self-awareness, I understood that I am equal to my husband. He is not my parent and I am not a child. Changing this dynamic in relationships, may make wonders!