The very fact I mention that advice received from the Internet should be taken with a grain of salt, includes me, as well. What I offer here is not advice per se but another side of the story where we should consider the option to move away rather than cheat. The only advice I give is to beware of Internet advice and then yes, if you look at ot like this I'm contradicting myself. The bottom line is that this story presents my opinion as a counterpart to Zulie's opinion that we should cheat to follow our dreams.