Thanks for your comment. Well, I have been too worn out at the time to have a proper reaction to that waiter but next time I will just say "this tone is inappropriate, please give us a moment". I understand that since you worked as a waiter you feel like fraternizing with this one who is a character in my story, but you're incorrect to judge me. Please see your place and be decent. Nobody asks you anything more than that. Stay out of family stuff. If you are provoked, excuse yourself and come later. It’s a shame you're a woman and don't understand how I felt