Ryan, I can understand better how it might feel on the other side. Yet, what I see here, is a man who can put things in perspective and is affected emotionally by the betrayal hoping he would have gotten to have a saying in this. To clarify, my husband knows I talk to this man. He knows he's my friend. He understands that as a friend he's there because he fullfls a need. He knows also there's a certain attraction between us. And he also knows that it's not going to be more than this. He respects my privacy. From time to time I tell him what I talked to this man and sometimes he is asking me how is he doing. We won't ever fit IRL so maybe that's why my husband doesn't make a case out of it. It's like his my guilty pleasure.