June, I do have kids. And not having sex leads to all kinds of tension. Withholding sex as punishment is stupid. I didn’t do it to punish him when I stopped having sex with my husband. The reason I didn’t have sex was because I prioritised fixing our issues before moving on. My husband has the habit of considering everything is ok between us when we have sex. I hope you get the difference. Then, when it comes to not having sex in a relationship, because both agree on that, well, as long as they are fine with it, I don’t see a problem.