Johnny Depp Might Not Be Innocent, but He’s Right: Men Suffer from Abuse Too
Over the last few weeks, I barely peaked at the topic as the Internet was boiling at the defamation case against Amber Heard, Johnny Depp’s former wife. Everyone is talking about it, so it’s hard to keep away. And, it was just enough to realise that men suffer from abuse, just as women do, yet their cases’ don’t become as known to the external eyes because they’re not supposed to be weak, do they?
Men don’t talk about being abused by women. Yet, many of them have numerous childhood shortcomings that set them for failure in their adult relationships. Men, like women alike, when they grow up in unloving households, struggling with their emotions as they figure out life, end up in relationships where they sell themselves short.
Abuse is not solely physical. Most men are psychologically abused by women in toxic relationships, which they find hard to leave because they don’t feel they deserve better. These are men that lack self-confidence because their parents always push them harder, for more, telling them they always have to fight and prove themselves because that’s what men do. Men don’t whine.
These men are afraid to show their emotions and are often considered tough. Yet, they are mushy and soft inside, and their feelings can easily get hurt by rejections. That’s why many accept awful partners that abuse them verbally, give them the silent treatment or leave and then return, knowing they will always be there to accept them coming back and forgiving all their mistakes.
There are women out there way more violent than men. Some of them are so verbally aggressive that they should be locked in madhouses. Yet, society tends to be more indulgent about a crazy screaming lady than towards a man that would do the same.
I know many women, including myself, who treat men less than they deserve. Some are doing it because of unhealed childhood wounds or past failed relationships. No matter the reason, instead of looking inwardly and seeking help, they blame their misery on their male partners. I know what I’m saying because I did the same. I hoped my partner would finally shower me with the attention I never got from my mother…
