I love this. I will answer to each point: 1) "the new guy" would like a normal relationship with me provided I leave my husband; I am not there (yet) and he knows and respects this. He is happy with whatever I can give him within the boundaries we have agreed. My family is not his concern. We don't talk about it more than I would talk to anybody else. Also, his sex life is not my concern, as he should 100% get sex and not wait for me. For now this relationship is fully virtual and don't have any concrete plans to take it to a different level. If his job is easy or fun...I don't. 2) I wouldn’t expect he is single. I know for sure he's not married though. But I do know that if I say the word and make my mind to be with him, he would 100% dismiss the other(s) to be with me. Yet, I don't see this happening IRL. I would be very surprised to end in that position.