I have repeatedly asked my husband to be present (instead of always on his phone or computer) but he refuses motivating physical pain (back pain and the like). I suggested he addresses his medical issues, but he ignores me. I feel he is taking advantage of his potential physical discomfort to avoid intimacy and affection. I feel betrayed. In other another part of the world there's a man who would do anything to spend even just an hour with me to hold me. Saying I am conflicted, it's an understatement.