I feel for you, James. I really do. If you stay you need to get closure on why you do. If you decide to go, then make damn sure you won't look back. I, for once, can live without romantic love, at the time, although I miss it, because I feel that my son is in a good place (he's three) and his father and I have always been like this - as in decent and respectful but not loving. Our son is affectionate and randomly tells us that he loves us. He is a happy little guy who makes me happy every day. I wouldn’t dare to steal this from him. I try to work with what I have in this marriage and enjoy what I have rather than focus on what I don’t. Maybe I am naive...but that’s who I am. Take care!