Hi, Keva. Thanks for reading and your comment. To you observations: - Yes, I'm aware I'm enabling her, but doing otherwise would mean I abandon her, which would not be a thought I could live with; - I would save / invest more if I would not have to support her. I would probably not change my lifestyle because I don't have any exccentric needs for the time being. Helping her doesn't impact my opportunities. I have savings, I started to invest some money, my child is well taken care of and has his own savings account. Of course if we're talking numbers, maybe by not helping her, the overall amount I contribute towards my savings would be greater than it is today. However, my peace of mind knowing that my mother is not left alone is worth more than a savings account. And you are absolutely right. My action is meeting my needs which is to do the "right thing". I am rational enough to know by now that my mom will not change. That doesn't change the fact that she gave birth to me and she had a though life. I learned through life to find people around me who would works as "foster parents" and my nature and personality brought me around very good models. Regarding my biological father, well, I accepted that in more tha 35 years he would have tried to contact me if he knew about my existance. My mother avoided talking about him and even though I know its my right to know, I don't think knowing it might bring me any value. It's always been like this, and it's part of who I am. Thanks again for the inspiration! Eva.