Hi, Kate. I am sorry if this was triggering for you. Let me explain from a fresh round of maternal narcissistic abuse that I am just facing now, as we speak. There's no excuse for my mother's behavior or my uncle's. I condemn it and I hold them responsible. The point I am coming from it's different though. I refuse to let hate shape me as a person, even if I am more than entitled to it. Hating them and proclaiming it publicly wouldn't do me any service. It wouldn't change what happened to me when I was a child and it won't change my mother now. I only have the decision to choose my position regarding them and my personal opinion is that trauma is not solved through hate. As a person going through therapy myself, I know that hate is not the answer. I don't know what kind of psychiatrist you're seeing but most therapists would encourage you through guidance to either cut the ties with the abusive or to go with radical acceptance. Google the last term - it's enlighting. To conclude, the title of my story may be intriguing - that was the point, yet the takeaway is simple - the chances you will heal from an abusive past by making public the abuse post-mortem, won't harm the abuser but it's unlikely will do you any service. Feel free to disagree. Wish you all the best in your own healing journey.