Hi, Jeff - thanks for sharing this! I struggled to stop this several times. On a rational level, I know exactly how dangerous it is. But the urge was stronger whenever I put the brakes on it, as he was always on my mind. My marriage is better, to be honest, lately. I am not deceiving him. He knows very well where I am coming from, and he's very respectful of it. Whatever I take from this emotional affair, like self-confidence, I pour back into my marriage. My husband may know I have a special friendship with this gentleman, but he lets me be, even if he doesn't like it.