Hey, Li. It’s good if that works for you, but that’s not generally good advice. I think you’d be happier if you would slowly regain control over your eating habits and level of activity. I firmly believe that you can exercise while at home. And if your father cooks for you, you can ask him to go for healthier options than comfort (which is great and acceptable, but in 20% of the cases and only if the other 80% means healthy + exercise).

I feel you, I’ve been depressed too. For years I’ve been telling me that I am not fat. I told myself that I can lose the weight in anytime. That’s a fallacy. I’ve been deceiving myself with this cheap lie only delaying the moment. I’ve even started a mantra telling myself with each weight milstone reached: “well, I’d guess I’m gonna dress this body now.” Yes, you’re right! That’s not a healthy attitude.

And it’s not healthy for us to justify all the bad habits on Covid and the special times. They are indeed. But telling ourselves this over and over again in the name of self-compassion is a slipery road.

Sorry, I can’t provide you the validation on your story that this attitude is fine (and you probably know it too). Because in all honesty, it’s not. I don’t know you and I sure thing don’t want to shame you or produce you any harm, but if you were my friend I would encourage you to break the habit and start something new.

You can do it. One salad a day. And only 5 minutes a day of exercise. The secret is to be consistent and increment when you feel comfortable.

Sending you love,

Eva.