Aw, thanks for the feedback. I think I may have gone slightly overboard with the gaming parallel. I'd love to "translate" if you'd like to extract any value from it. So on short: Lesson 1 and 2. Don't be afraid of your wife's emotions. Be curious to understand them. Use them to your advantage. Lesson 3. Improve yourself. Learn a new skill, invest in your development, increase your self-confidence and that will reflect out and make you more attractive. Lesson 4. Be kind to your wife. Help her before she's asking. Clean those dishes, take the kid out so she can have a bit of time for herself. Don't make a big deal out of it. Lesson 5. Laugh together. Share those stupid memes. Don't take yourself too seriously. Don't be afraid of self-deprecating jokes. Personally, I love them on a man. They show me how self-confident he is when he says "yeah, I'm an idiot". That makes him a cute idiot that I want to f... Lesson 6. Sharing jokes, pictures, interesting articles, talking other than just transactionally helps with intimacy Lesson 7. Touch hands, small kisses, and all the platonic touches during the day increase the desire. Hope this helps :)