We should be wary of the “advice” we get on the Internet

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Having a hobby that can also generate an income is incredibly motivating. I’m here to attest that while I never thought I would ever consider writing a lucrative side hustle if you’re lucky enough as I was, you can make some really nice money off it.

But then the problem I see with writing, especially with motivational writing, is the potential harm we can make by presenting personal experiences as a universal truth. …

So should men get the “other hole”?

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Most men are fascinated by anal sex. It’s probably its scarcity that makes it this wanted, or maybe because it feels tighter, or because they get to feel in a certain way. A thing is for sure, women that enjoy sex while keeping their partners satisfied have better relationships than those that shy away from sexual experimentation or avoid sex altogether.

However, as logical as this may sound, I would never do it just because my partner wants it, especially if I am not comfortable doing it (at all) or with him. In this situation, some men invoke Adele’s lyrics…

The pun is intended — obviously.

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Anal sex is no longer a taboo topic surrounded by shame and repulsion since, as you all may know, it has been long associated with promiscuity and repulsion, primarily due to lack of sexual education and tolerance towards diverse sexual preferences.

Nowadays, even if we don’t discuss anal sex as openly and lightly as we do with vaginal intercourse — aka “normal sex,” we started investing more curiosity and research into the topic, which is visible in the vast amount of related content the Internet.

So, if you haven’t given it thought already, here are several reasons why anal sex…

Program your mind to like ‘sex’ and stop treating it as a chore.

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Who knew that writing about sex will make me want more of it?

I have never seen myself as a woman who will crave sex until now. Actually, I was for a sizeable part of my young adult life quite happy with holding hands, as having sex was often a chore that I had to get over with to do other things. This led me to wonder for many years whether there was something wrong with me for lacking sex drive. Was it my partner? Was it me? Or was it OK not to care about sex too much?

Eventually, after twenty years since I started my sex life, I lost hope that…

And the problem is, I’m comparing myself in the wrong league.

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What am I doing here?! Look at all these wonderful writers that already said it and even ten times better than I do.

I do feel like a fraud sometimes. As if I’m stealing from the professional writers when I’m publishing work that is way inferior to what they consistently supply on this platform. Why would I continue writing when the topics I’m writing about have already been covered by them, to perfection? Yet, when I look at my stats and earnings, I realize that there’s an audience for everyone.

Since the wide majority of the readers are amateur writers…

And why this should be forbidden.

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Many summers ago, in my early 20s, I received a strange gift from my boyfriend’s mother during our stay at their house on vacation. She gave me a pair of lace underwear, saying she saw it in a shop and couldn’t hold back from buying it. But since she can’t wear lace anymore (I didn’t understand why so), she was offering it to me because I was “young.”

Replaying the scene in my head almost 20 years later, I’m still embarrassed by the gift, but most importantly, by the accompanying explanation.

This lady is now my mother-in-law, and we’re far…

When children are unconsciously competing for the same resources — there are winners and losers.

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The differences between my husband and his brother are striking. Everyone can see them, and wonder same as me, how come that my husband, who is the older brother and always did better academically than his brother, is, despite the statistics, less successful?

I like to spend time analyzing people. I’m interested in learning how their past shaped their future because, as humans, we are the sum of our lifelong experiences. Henceforth understanding and accepting the past is instrumental to our mental health.

I also spent plenty of time analyzing my husband because I wanted to understand what generates his…

Let’s say goodbye to this socially imposed habit

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I just turned 35. It’s a wonderful age I wouldn’t change for anything. It’s an age where I finally feel like myself and don’t need any external validation to prove my worth. I know it because I worked my ass for it.

So, why am I tired of answering impersonal birthday wishes since most of us seem to like receiving them for our birthday?

Because they falsely lead you to think that people are really giving a damn about your birthday, when in fact, just a few of them do it purposely while others:

  • Post a birthday wish because the…

Just the tip and only for a minute | short form

1-minute long stories on relationships, marriage, and sex.

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“Just the tip and only for a second” is colloquially known as the boyfriend who tries to persuade his girlfriend to give in to sex.

Depending on your personal history, this expression can trigger various thoughts or emotions. In my case, it reminds me of my boyfriend’s attempts to convince me to go for anal sex, when back in the days, I was reluctant to try it.

He used to say, and I remember him vividly, “let’s just try it for a second; I’ll gently insert the tip, and if you don’t like it, I’ll be out in a second.”…

Middle management is challenging, so you deserve a break

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Back in 2010, I got my first job in middle management. Upon hiring, HR scribbled a star next to my name that meant that I was marked as a “high potential.” I only came to learn about the asterisk after six months on the job when they invited me to apply for a Team Manager role. HR had to replace a Team Leader who “left the company” when they let him go for underperforming.

I was perfect for what that management needed: both young and naive.

Because I wanted to make sure I won’t mess up the fantastic opportunity, I…

Eva Grape

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