Eir Thunderbird

What I’ve learned through my experiences of love.

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First things first, let’s clarify the difference between love and fondness.

We’ve all been in love at least once by the time we reach maturity. The butterflies in the stomach that we usually feel when we’re in love are chemically-induced, so while love might feel magic, it can actually be explained by science.

As HealthLine explains it,

“When you’re attracted to another person, your brain releases dopamine, your serotonin levels increase, and oxytocin is produced. This causes you to feel a surge of positive emotion.”

The attraction is dynamic in time. In long-term relationships, it is common to reach a plateau that gives you both the opportunity to grow as a couple or can send your relationship straight to hell. More often than not, according to statistics, many couples choose to discard a relationship during difficult times, rather than pull the weight and work on it. …


Give it some thought and then let it sink in. You might be in for some revelation.

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The Preamble

I had been in therapy for over a year when I had that mind-blowing session that everyone expects to have. Yet I was shit scared to experiment with it. It happened unexpectedly. As a matter of fact, that day when we started I had nothing to vent about, hence my expectations for that session were nothing near what I ended up getting.

Everything started with a question my therapist asked, more or less, out of a sudden. She said “Eir, do you remember the first time you got angry?”; …


The influence of my Borderline Personality Disorder mother on my friendship style

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Throughout a lifetime we develop different kinds of friendships. Some are long-lasting while some are quickly consumed during summer camp only to never remember them ever again. Some are downright weird. But as the saying goes “no man is an island,” so we all crave that sense of belongingness, according to Maslow.

I was raised by a single mother and I never knew my father. She became pregnant with me when she was young, so it remained unknown who my father was. I still don’t know it to this day and I grew to accept it is a part of who I am. …


Your inspiration bit to show up for your workout

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OK. I think I can start the first one here to confess that I can’t go more than a week without a workout. I have never been the active type of person until two years ago when I turned my life around by deciding to get healthier.

What Got Me Started in the First Place?

I dreaded any kind of activity. I always drove everywhere instead of walking and I preferred to rest by watching Netflix. The most intense type of physical activity was shopping, which I guess was better than nothing, at that point.

Back in 2018 — actually it was the end of 2017, when I experimented with the type of feel-good chemicals that you can only get from working out in the outdoors. According to Piedmont Healthcare, “outdoor exercise can help ward off seasonal affective disorder (SAD), depression and anxiety because sunshine naturally increases serotonin, a hormone that affects your mood. And exercise itself produces endorphins, another feel-good hormone that boosts your mood and reduces pain”. …


A story of becoming

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I’ll start off by saying that I’m no better and no worse than any mom out there, so there’s a high chance you can relate to my take on the subject.

My son was born in a family of two people that prepared a life-time to meet him, yet they were still not ready when he arrived. Sounds familiar, isn’t it?

My son was invited to come into this world. He was a planned and expected baby. When my son was conceived, I was a well-rounded woman. Then I got hit by the train; and not just me, my husband, too. After getting used to our lives without the responsibility of another human being, having one around us that demanded so much and gave yet so little, was destabilizing. …


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The Venting Machine has reached 42 followers — a 68% increase! That’s very promising for the first two weeks of 2021. Thank you for your vote of trust.

Our small yet powerful publications received 6 submissions this month and 3 of them have been automatically curated — that’s a 50% curation rate! Not bad at all!

Congrats Susan Poole for ‘Why I’m Ready for My Son to Return to College’, to Stephanie Gruner Buckley for ‘Yak’s Milk or Olive Wood? Another Lockdown Dilemma’ and Christina for ‘Testing. Testing. Testing. Testing. Testing. Testing?’. …


Decisions to make in the pandemics. Think before you judge.

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The Context

My son is almost two. From a development perspective, he is ready to socialize more. I can see that he is interested in other children of his age by looking at them curiously and copying their moves. So he’s there, developmentally.

My therapist also confirmed it. She told me the other day that she can easily tell which children were raised by grandparents when they step into her office, only by looking at their posture and how they walk and move. …


What happened with the “series” button from the Medium profile? I am a relatively new writer on Medium so I didn’t get to experience the series feature for writing short…


Because everyone talks about the baby and we tend to forget the mother

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From the moment we decide to be mothers (because that’s how we do it these days) until we die, we will undergo different motherhood stages. That’s right, you heard it well: you’re a mother for life.

Hence, even when your child is the same age as your age when you birth him, the chance is that you’ll still be heavily connected to him, even though the type of attachment will be different this time. It’s a majestic feeling to be spiritually connected to someone for life — and that’s the gift of motherhood.

Now, until your child grows up to be his own man, you, as a mother, will evolve your role by his side. You will, too, undergo development milestones that may result in a different identity crisis. Being informed about the potential disturbances can help you prepare beforehand so you can weather the storm. …


Touch starvation is real and it’s not that easy to pay for it anymore

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Touch starvation is a real thing and can be life-endangering for a newborn if deprived of it. Right from birth until we die, humans are hardwired to be touched. Starvation happens when a person does not experience human touch during a long stretch of time.

Since there are numerous studies to support both the negative and positive effects of touch on well-being, this story will focus instead on covering a different kind of angle for this topic.

Would You Be Willing to Pay for Being touched?

Any positive touch, in the form of friendly hugs, handshakes, or pats on the backs is believed to have a beneficial effect on your health, according to HealthLine. …

About

Eir Thunderbird

Mother, wife, and professional | Top Writer in Parenting, Relationships, Mental Health and Feminism | Editor for The Venting Machine |

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