Can we grow together as a couple?

People marry for various reasons. Sometimes for love, but most often base their decision on projections. She’s kind, so I’ll take the chance she’ll be a wonderful wife who will love me happily ever after or he’s patient and caring — he’ll make a wonderful father one day. Only that there’s no such guarantee. We can’t expect people to stay the same for a lifetime.

The only constant in life is change.

Marrying someone and expecting it will last forever is a gamble. You never know for sure that the person you married today will be the same five years…

BPD people have a hard time in social interactions.

For as long as I can remember, I was not too fond of family gatherings that included my mother. As you can imagine, when I was a child and during early adulthood, all family gatherings had her, which made celebrations like Christmas, Easter, and birthdays anxiety-inducing events.

My mother is socially awkward. Her behavior stems from low self-esteem issues, which she tends to hide by overcompensating. Consequently, she becomes very loud in a group setting, and if she doesn’t have her way, she’s quick to snap. My mother doesn’t seem to care that she’s making a scene. …

Dennis Collins read and left a comment on one of the oldest pieces I wrote about my marriage struggles. He said the following:

These two lines stand out: “I have pursued my husband to start this family journey, after being together for 12 years in a stagnating relationship.” & “ Two years later, I managed to make him agree to try for a child.” Had I been coaching him I would have explored does he really want to be in this relationship, and why would he get married let alone have a kid in a long term stagnate relationship.

You…

Watching a series is a guilty pleasure we shouldn’t feel that guilty about.

I confess it’s been a while since I have watched a TV series. As a working mother, time is essential, especially if I also allocate time for my writing. But sometimes, and you all know what I’m talking about, you don’t want to do anything “productive,” and you’d just lay, instead, watching something that doesn’t take much brain capacity to process.

Because I’m cautious with my time, I have refrained from social media and Netflix which are notorious time thieves. …

Tonight has been the third time in the last month when my husband refused my advances to go to bed after initiating sex.

I went by him, pressing my body on him and softly biting his neck. He rejected me and I felt insulted. Today, even more than the other times because, in all honesty, I needed to have sex.

For months, my husband has been very vocal, complaining about not getting satisfying sex in our relationship because his words, “you don’t suck anymore,” and “you’re not interested in anal sex either.” …

THOUGHTS

She wanted to meet my child, her grand-grandson, so she could tell our dearly departed, when she’d get on the other side as well, how my son is. She didn’t pressure me, and I didn’t hurry either. On a crispy Sunday in February, my son was born close to her birthday, four years after she left the Earth.

Today is exactly six years since I don’t have my grandmother anymore, a woman who raised me like a mother.

She was a tough woman, so I learned toughness from her. For most of her life, she had to be responsible, taking…

Dear gentlemen,

You might not care that much about your biological clock like women do, yet, down prioritizing fatherhood for other life goals can lead to regrets later on in life.

The reason for which I am writing about this topic is that I live with a man that became a father in his 40s, and I bet he could have been much better equipped for fatherhood if we would have had the kid while in his 30s.

Fortunately, in our case, fertility wasn’t an issue. I am seven years younger than him, healthy and active, which made the age…

They always told us that we’re a package deal. If I go, they will go too; if I stay, we’ll stay together. So during the negotiation week, when I’ve been in meetings with both sides trying to decide what would be the best move, I always discussed my position as a delegate of the trio.

My logical brain told me that we should accept the transition and move; however, it felt profoundly wrong. My decision-making process led me to conclude that I should not trade a good manager seduced by the deceptive promise of corporate success.

I wasn’t expecting this…