Published inHeart AffairsHow Intermittent Reinforcement Keeps You Hooked in Manipulative Relationships.I’m the woman who thought she was finally being seen.Jan 177Jan 177
Published inInvisible IllnessThe Weight of Two LivesBetween a distant husband and a fading lover, I’m forced to confront the life I’m too scared to leave.Dec 31, 202421Dec 31, 202421
Published inThe ViragoBoys Will Be Boys, but Women Will Be SlutsAn open letter to (some) male readers regarding how we look at infidelity from a gender perspective.Dec 15, 202437Dec 15, 202437
Published inAge of EmpathyWhy I Stayed, Why I St(r)ayed, and Why I’m Still Lost.The emotional cost of staying and the risks of leavingDec 12, 202426Dec 12, 202426
Published inHeart AffairsWhy My Husband Should Write a Thank-You Note to My Affair Partner“We are all going to have two or three relationships in our lifetime. Some of us will do it with the same person.” — Esther PerelDec 2, 202476Dec 2, 202476
Published inHeart Affairs5 Data-Driven Lessons Awkward Experiments Taught Me About MarriageWhat happens when you turn your marriage into a science experiment? I found out the hard way.Nov 28, 20244Nov 28, 20244
Published inHeart AffairsThe Hormones Made Me Do It.How Dopamine (and Friends) Got Me Into an Affair and Taught Me a Lot About Marriage.Oct 24, 202426Oct 24, 202426
Published inHeart AffairsAnxious Attachment and Affairs — How Infidelity Helped Me Understand My Own Emotional NeedsTwenty years is a long time to be with someone, especially when you’re wired like me — anxiously preoccupied, constantly seeking…Oct 15, 202417Oct 15, 202417
Published inHeart AffairsWhen Infidelity Feels Like Self-CareThe ROI on a plane ticket beats months of therapy, hands down.Oct 7, 202431Oct 7, 202431
Published inHeart AffairsSplit in Two — How an Affair Can Light Up What’s MissingUsing two relationships to make one whole.Sep 30, 202411Sep 30, 202411
